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Sober People vs. Prim and Proper People

 I am 94 days sober and I am still trying to work some things out.  One of the things I am still trying to work out is whether being sober after over-indulging for years is fundamentally different than just always having been sober  - meaning am I now one of those people that I used find boring, judgmental, uptight, unfun [insert whatever word you want here because I think most drinkers will find that at least some of the adjectives is one they have thought themselves] or am I different?  Is my sobriety richer and fuller than the type that those people have had all along?  Or are we really the same now and I've just come around to their point of view? I should pause here to clarify that I in no way find or found all sober people to be boring, judgmental, uptight, unfun, etc.  Some of my dearest friends were pretty much sober people and were more interesting and fun than a lot of people I know, but I'm not talking about those people.  I'm talking about the other kind, the pr
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Day 94 and Things Are Looking UP

Today was Easter and I had a really good day.  Yesterday too.  Whatever horrendous doldrums had taken hold of me at day 90 seems to be passing and I am really happy to be not drinking now.  I felt strong and content as I stayed up late making Easter baskets and preparing a bunny cake.  I had fun this morning and had lots of energy to do an egg hunt, host my father and his wife, jump on the trampoline, cook a giant breakfast and (gasp!) clean it up because I was not all drowsy from drinking mimosas or if at night wine.  So while it was hard not to drink after a long day in Orlando, it feels good not to drink right here, right now.  I do have a question though which I will post in a new blog post... K
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Day 91

 Yesterday was day 91 and it was easier than 90.  I took a nice walk and observed the buds.  I tried to take a bath and I had fun with my kids in front of the fire.  I did not really have the urge to drink at all. One thing I have noticed is that I am having trouble with anxiety without the booze to escape thinking about things that make me anxious.  While the things I think about are not horrendous problems (my 10-year old son's two best friends have excluded him and shut him out and are being a bit jerky and some clients at work are more trouble than is good, my boss seems annoyed with me, etc., I just don't deal with them well.  I don't know how, but I guess I need to learn.   I want to resolve to just keep putting positive things out there and hope that they come back to me and I will go stronger and surer as time passes. K
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I am 90 days alcohol free today.  It is the first time probably since high school (I'm 47 so that is really saying something).  Why am I feeling just so down and blah today then?  Don't get me wrong, I am happy that I have made it so far and I'd like to further.  I have in fact committed to 100 days, which falls on April 10, 2021.  After that, we'll see. I just thought I'd feel better by now.  Lighter, brighter, floating around happily, channeling all of the energy of the universe that I have failed to tap into while sipping wine in my living room, kitchen, yard, on the beach, at a restaurant, on a boat, and pretty much anywhere else you can imagine. What I do have:  clarity, about 6 less pounds, an excellent 10,000 step/day track record and a newly acquired (and used!) Peloton, a better and closer relationship with my 10 year old and 4 year old, more confidence at work and in general.   Being sober however has also made me take a look at a lot of bad decisions and
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